Your Thoughts Determine Your Happiness

"Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."

Philippians 4:8

I don’t know about you, but I would describe myself as the type of person who wears their heart on their sleeve...in other words, I am an emotional person. I typically don’t just feel anything with little or no emotion—especially the big parts of my life. For example, I love my friends and family SO much that when they are hurting or are going through something hard, I typically will feel what they are feeling. These strong emotions that I experience are directly correlated toward my love for all of the amazing people that God has placed into my life. If things are going good for my friends and family, I rejoice with them. If their lives are in the gutter and things are tough, I worry for them and they remain heavy on my heart through prayer.

In general, I would say this emotional personality the Lord has given me also correlates toward the fact that I am a very extroverted person. I am mostly refueled by my interactions with the people that I love. I love to encourage others and build them up, and affirm the gifts that the Lord has given them to use within their individual lives. However, I recently realized that I am not this bubbly, positive person in regards to the way that I talk to and think of my own self! Crazy, right? You would think someone who is such a lover of people and who is also known for being super positive around others would be just the same if not more positive toward their own self, but that honestly isn't the case. 

 I realize that what I struggle with the most is negative self-talk. Maybe you can relate. I know that not only extroverts struggle with negative self-talk. A lot of people do! Do YOU struggle with negative self-talk as well? I know that a big portion of women do, and that I am not in this alone.

I notice that the negative self-talk creeps in when I am doing things that I am very passionate about, such as teaching, blogging, or photography.  I think it is because Satan wants to come at me where he knows it will hurt the most. When I am teaching and I notice a mistake in my lecture notes, I will tell silently tell myself I'm a failure and that I need to get my life figured out. If I am writing a blog post and I just can't seem to find the right words to write, I will think to myself there is something wrong with me.  If I look at myself in them mirror and don’t like the way a shirt or jacket looks at me, I’ll tell myself that I am too large and that I need to lose weight. If I am talking to a friend and something comes out not the way that I intended, I immediately criticize myself for messing up.


Goodness gracious ladies, this is NOT the way the Lord wants me to talk to my own SELF! He sees me as perfect, imperfections and all, and he sees you as the SAME! I need to value the person God has created me to be, and most importantly speak words of positivity over myself, to ensure that I am able to be the best version of myself that I can be. You see, I believe that our thoughts are directly connected to our hearts. If we think negatively of ourselves, it will affect our individual well-beings and hurt our hearts.

My best friend gave me this great analogy the other day and I encourage you to use it: Think of your heart as a home. You must be determined every day to protect it from anything that could harm it: especially negative thoughts. Every time a negative thought comes in your direction, see it as the enemy attempting to attack your "home". Do whatever you can to make it go away, aka pray against it in the name of Jesus! You have power and self-discipline in the name of Jesus to do so!     

 For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline.  
2 Timothy 1:7

My prayer for myself and everyone reading this is that our minds would be filled with healthy, positive thoughts.

Holy Spirit, I pray that you would completely invade my mind, and begin to remove wrong patterns of thinking toward myself. I pray that you would help us take every thought captive and make it obedient to you, Jesus. I pray that if our process of thinking is not healthy in any way, then that you would invade it and renew it.

And for those of you whose mind may be in such a bad place, that you're feeling like there is no possible way out: There is always a way with the Lord! God can do the unthinkable. Call to Him in your time of need, sweet friend! 


“Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.”

Jeremiah 33:3